we’d gather around all in a room

fasten our belts engage in dialogue

we’d all slow down rest without guilt

not lie without fear disagree sans judgement

we would stay and respond and expand and include

and allow and forgive and enjoy and evolve

and discern and inquire and accept and admit

and divulge and open and reach out and speak up

this is utopia this is my utopia

this is my ideal my end in sight

utopia this is my utopia

this is my nirvana

my ultimate

:lyrics to Alanis Morrisette’s song Utopia in the album Under Rug Swept

It takes more strength of character to wear your heart on your sleeve than to guard it like a fort.

:Annie in a comment in response to The Fallacy of Free Speech

I’m too much of a control freak to just let myself go.

It’s not that you have sex once and you get the jokes

:Janice

“That’s the problem when women-friends try to set you up. They always say “She’s sweet”.

You’re not looking for an additive for your tea or coffe, you’re looking for a girlfriend!”

:Sanjeev